Life can be overwhelming. Especially when we look at it. I used to love horror movies, but these days its enough to watch the news. Sometimes it seems we’re living in the apocolypse, as written by Steven King.
At this writing we are heading toward a pivotal, some say existential, national election. The two primary presidential candidates have come under fire. One fending attacks against their age and mental acuity. The other, quite literally, in a narrowly missed assassination attempt. Both of these situations have caused us to stop and reconsider solid paradigmatic points of view.
Maybe it’s not a bad thing to be forced to look at what we convey and what we see. Are we being clear? Are we looking with an objective awareness at how things work? Or, are we only selling our point of view to ourselves and our world? I have been guilty of the latter. More egregiously, I have felt justified in doing so. If we feel we are right, we might feel justified in piling on, exaggerating or satirizing to substantiate our point of view. I am more inclined to this when speaking to my choir. I pontificate as the heads nod. But where will this lead? Justification feels so right, but in reality, it often leads to disordance and misunderstanding. The stronger we hold to our point of view, the less we understand alternative reasoning. This creates a false permanence, which is counter to the natural laws of the universe. Becoming stuck on our point of view is an invitation for the universe to dislodge us. Often this forced shift leads to a period of chaos where our values and perceptions come into question. When firmly held perceptions shift, we go through a period when things are out of phase producing a dissonant static that is challenging to navigate.
Along with change, chaos is a primary law of the universe. Although unsettling, it’s a natural part of our lives. Applying “functional awareness” chaos can be seen as a gateway from a familiar paradigm to a new vantage point. “Objective awareness” is seeing what is actually happening, rather than how we feel or what it all means, which is more of a subjective awareness. It’s good to acknowledge how we feel. But it doesn’t mean that is how others feel. And it doesn’t mean that it is easy to see beyond ourselves. That shift from our precious point of view into another space is often preceded by a moment of ego death, which is chaotic and unsettling.
If we look objectively at how chaotic moments in our life have played out, we’ll see that we have made it through these unsettling passages each time. Perhaps we have stepped into more fortunate circumstances. And maybe we have developed greater awareness from being dislodged from our zone of familiarity. If we look at how it works, chaos sometimes feels bad, but is a very necessary step in our growth process. So, waking up in this turmoil requires us to accept that the unknowing of chaos is sometimes necessary. It is also important to see that resisting change is a primary condition of suffering. But does this mean we blindly go along with an alternative? No. In fact, the alternative is also subject to change. A true paradigm shift is not shifting from one leg to the other. It is accepting that at this moment, we have no legs at all to stand on. As we are not having to become something, there is no reason to resist anything.
Binaries are fictions we create to better understand chaos. There is a good, and there is a bad. We have right and we have wrong. We feel comfort in fending off chaos with these solid beliefs. All of us have something we feel is real. But clinging to those beliefs create suffering as readily as clinging to material things or other people. This is called materialism of view. We believe our ideas are real. Well, good luck with that. I’ve actually come to see that binaries are by their nature never real. They are crude designations, the first step in the mental triage in trying to address the unsettling unknowing of chaos. The remedy? Hahaha. Relax. We are struggling through a natural process of rebirth. There is no reason to struggle. Our disquiet is urging us to discomfort. Our discomfort tells the part of ourselves charged with being in control that we are under siege. And so we prove our mettle by digging in. We turn false binaries in rhetoric and rhetoric into violence. At this point, the chaos in our mind becomes chaos in our life.
However, Meditation Master Chogyam Trungpa was fond of saying “chaos should be regarded as extremely good news.” It seems despite our discomfort, this natural process might lead to a deeper, more nuanced connection to life. It may be that life itself is a series of birthing. Maybe instead of projecting where we wish it will all lead, we might pray to end up where we least intend. If we close our eyes right now and visualize what we want from life we are creating a fiction that will never happen as we project it will. And it is possible that we are selling ourselves short. Perhaps life can be so much more than our conditioned thinking would indicate. We can only project from what we know. If our knowing changes, our projections may change accordingly. Who knows what we’ll want tomorrow, and, by extension, where that may lead us?
Of course, we can’t abandon all principles. That would be like abandoning all our clothing. We need clothing. However, we may no longer be comfortable in bell bottoms. Yet, if our principles change with the seasons we are just adding to the chaos. In our last class, Erik With a K suggested that we can find a seat that might offer ballast in order to navigate turbulence in our journey. Daily Meditation gives us the connection to the now that breeds the confidence to be here despite the chaos. WE. ARE. HERE. And knowing that “here” has no obligation to us, our work is to open our hearts and see what is actually happening. And just as life has no obligation to conform to us, we have no obligation to do anything but remain here, navigating our way with our eyes open.
Trungpa would say, life is like falling out a window. But, the good news is there is no ground. So how do we find our balance through chaos if there is no ground? Perhaps we find a navigation point in finding comfort in where we are. Perhaps a balance point is deep within ourselves. All we can change is ourselves. All we are responsible to is our mind. Protect your mind and you will see your way through.
Waking up in chaos: Accept the turmoil. Avoid judgements. Find our seat in that. Open our eyes. And enjoy the ride.
